As of right now, some of people believe that my parents are gods without them, I wouldn't be here or who I am now. Also, if you ask someone, “Ok! I understand that you have a deep affection for your parents, particularly your mother or father. However, how do you justify your affection? The majority of individuals will respond, "Because she gave me birth. she is the reason I am here."

It’s fair enough and logical at the same point. We frequently hear, however, "My parents are gods because they gave birth to me, fed me, did this, did that, and so on and so forth." And similar stuff. Also in Hinduism, it is also stated, “Parents are god.”

As of right now, only those who have positive relationships with their parents will say something like what I have written above. It’s not necessary that everyone have a good relationship with parents. In this case, I'm not saying that the parents' mistake is the only reason the relationship is bad . It's also possible that the kids don't understand the bond. Look, it's not necessary, to be honest, to have a good relationship with everyone. We all function on different energy frequencies at different times, even though we belong to the same family. We have good relations with those who have a similar kind of vibration, like us—in Gen Z terms, vibe matching.

Couple of time, people blame children for not having good relationship with parents. Sometime parents also gets blamed for it.

Sometimes, kids say to their parents, "If you can't give me this or provide this for me, then why did you give birth to me?" or "Because you, I am suffering." This is especially hard for parents who are having a hard time with money. and the comprehension level of children. I'm not saying that all children whose parents struggle financially mention these things, some are sympathetic and make an effort to help. We can see both of the example.

Parents who are having a hard time with money aren't the only ones this case applies to. It also applies to people who give everything but just dialogue changes, but the feeling of disappointment is still there. When children gradually come to believe that their "parents are gods," they begin to feel disappointed in them.

Which they are taught from childhood, like in childhood parents give things or give their best to provide things which their child provide, children minds thinks so, whatever i wish these can provide, like we have imagination of god in our head. Also, some parents can’t provide all things which what their children provide, in childhood where other kids get things and they don’t they have some disappointment developed from the childhood.

We have certain disappointments going on from childhood toward the parents. As we grew up, we had some distance from our parents. We store grudges over them, and sometimes this disappointment is so high teenagers majorly say, “Why did you give birth to me if you can’t provide for me?” These things lead parents into stress where they question themselves, and at some point they agree that despite  trying their best, they couldn’t give their best to their child. Indirectly, by these things, we are giving guilt to parents. And always remember that any disease first starts at the mental plane, then its manifestation in the physical body happens. It’s not only because of food that in old age the majority of parents get diabetes, thyroid problems, high blood pressure, or ulcers. It’s because of guilt that they stored over the period of time. it’s not only because children give them guilt, but also sometimes parents self-sabotage themselves thinking, I've done my best for my child. They can also have some guilt regrets about their past, not only because of childhood guilt or grudges. And this disease part applies to all of us.

My only purpose in writing this article is not to challenge someone's faith, belief, or love toward their parents. My sole objective is just to treat them as human. Humans make mistakes, all of us. And parents are also human, they will make mistakes. Some circumstances made them do that, the majority of parents want the best for their child. When you give them the title of god, you don’t expect mistakes from them or disappointment from them. You will say, “How can they do this to me?” “They should have done this.” “Because of my parents, I'm suffering.” Some people might have gone through such situations that you and I never thought of. They might be parents as well. Parents never share pain with their children, like, Look, to get you this, I've done this, you have to treat me like God. When you stop treating them like God, you accept their flaws and mistakes like they did yours.

Just Forgive them, yeah, some of you might have gone through much dark cause one of parents, till Forgive them, let me them free. Not for them for yourself, don’t cage yourself there. Forgive them, move on.This single handedly will help you much as nothing else.

Hari om tat sat.

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हामीले दक्षिण एसियाली देशहरूमा, विशेष गरी नेपाल, भारतमा वृद्धहरूले उपवासको बारेमा कुरा गरेको देखेका छौं। बाल्यकालदेखि नै मैले मेरी आमा, हजुरआमा वा मेरो वरपरका अन्य महिलाहरूलाई उपवास गरेको देखेको छु, विशेष गरी सोमबार, तीज (मुख्यतया नेपालमा मनाइने चाड) एकादशी तिथि र केही महिलाहरू पनि शनिबार उपवास राख्छन्।

उनीहरूका लागि उपवासको कारण, उनीहरूले मलाई के भनेका थिए भने, परिवारको भलाइका लागि अविवाहित महिलाहरूले भगवान शिवजस्ता असल पति पाउनका लागि सरवन महिनाको सोमबार (सोमबर) उपवास राख्छन्। त्यस समय मैले सोचेँ, ओह! महिलाहरूले मात्र उपवास गर्छन्, पुरुषहरूले उपवास गर्नुपर्दैन।

तर अब, मैले उपवासका केही कारणहरू पाएँ। उपवासले वास्तवमा शरीरलाई सफा गर्छ, यो शरीर र आत्मालाई सफा बनाउने प्रक्रिया हो। यहाँ, आधुनिक विज्ञानका केही समर्थकहरूले सोच्न सक्छन्, उपवास गरेर शरीर सफा गर्न कसरी सम्भव छ?

यहाँ कुरा के हो भने, हाम्रो शरीरमा मृत कोशिकाहरू हुन्छन्, जबकि उपवास गर्ने शरीरले ऊर्जा दिन सोच्नुपर्दैन, त्यसैले यो मृत कोशिकाको भित्री शरीर खान सुरु हुन्छ, यसले धेरै रोगहरूलाई रोक्छ।

शरीरलाई सर्किट बोर्डको रूपमा सोच्नुहोस्, प्रतिरोध जति कम हुन्छ, शरीरमा त्यति नै बढी ऊर्जा प्रवाह हुन्छ।

अब, तपाईँले पनि सोच्न सक्नुहुन्छ, ठिक छ, यसले शरीरलाई सफा बनाउँछ तर परिवारको कल्याण र राम्रो पति पाउन उपवाससँग सम्बन्धित के सम्बन्ध छ? यसको कुनै अर्थ छैन।

जब तपाईँ सफा हुनुहुन्छ, तपाईँ निको हुन पाउनुहुन्छ। तपाईँले आफ्नो वरिपरि असल ऊर्जालाई आकर्षित गर्नुहुन्छ। तपाईँका वरपरका मानिसहरू तपाईँले विकिरण गर्ने ऊर्जाका हुन्छन्। त्यसैले, महिलाहरूले असल पति पाउँछन्। साथै, जब तपाईं निको हुनुहुन्छ, तपाईं आफ्नो परिवारको हेरचाह गर्न सक्नुहुन्छ जब तिनीहरू समस्यामा छन्।

अहिले सम्म, हामीलाई थाहा हुन्छ, हामीले किन उपवास गर्नुपर्छ?

हेरौँ, उपवास कहिले गर्नुपर्छ।

म मानिसहरूलाई एकादशी (11 औँ चन्द्र चक्र) उपवास गर्न सिफारिस गर्दछु। किनकि एकादशी भनेको निको पार्ने तिथि हो, तपाईँको मन र आत्मा (चन्द्र र सूर्य) त्यस तिथीमा पङ्क्तिबद्ध हुन्छन्, त्यसैले तपाईँको ऊर्जाको स्तर माथि उठ्छ। यो तिथि वरदान जस्तै काम गर्छ। एकादशीभन्दा अघिको तिथि धसमीमा, निको पार्ने देवताहरू र शक्तिहरू पृथ्वीमा आउँछन्; एकादशीमा, तिनीहरूले तपाईंलाई भित्रबाट निको पार्छन्।

केही मानिसहरू सोमबार, मङ्गलबार र शनिबार पनि उपवास राख्छन्। जहाँसम्म मैले देखेँ, नेपालका अधिकांश महिलाहरूले सोमबार उपवास राख्छन्।

सोमबारको उपवासले मानसिक स्पष्टता र भावनात्मक सफाई प्राप्त गर्न मद्दत गर्दछ। यो भगवान शिवको दिन हो।

मङ्गलबारको उपवासले साहस प्राप्त गर्न, कार्यहरू गर्न मद्दत गर्दछ। यो हनुमान जीको दिन हो।

मानिसहरूले ज्योतिषीय संयोजनका आधारमा पनि उपवास लिन्छन्। जब पेसामा कुनै समस्या छ भने शनिबार उपवास गर्नुहोस्।

शनिबारको उपवास अलि बढी कठिन हुन्छ। किनभने दिनको ऊर्जाले धैर्यताको परीक्षा लिन्छ।

प्रत्यक्ष रूपमा त्रियोदशी व्रत नगर्नुहोस्, पहिले केही समयका लागि पञ्चमी, अष्टमी, एकादशी गर्नुहोस् त्यसपछि गर्नुहोस्। किनभने यो मोक्ष तिथि हो, यसले तपाईंलाई चीजहरूबाट मोक्ष दिनेछ, तपाईं सुरुमा ऊर्जालाई नियन्त्रण गर्न सक्षम हुनुहुने छैन।

उपवास कसरी गर्ने?
उपवास भनेको खाना नखाउने मात्र होइन, त्योभन्दा पनि बढी हो। अपराध, पश्चात्ताप, मानसिक अवरोधबिना मस्तिष्कको उपवास पनि राख्नुहोस्। मानिसहरूलाई माफ गर्नुहोस्, यसले तपाईँलाई भित्रबाट धेरै सफा गर्छ र तपाईँको आध्यात्मिक विकासमा लैजान्छ।

साथै, उपवास एक दिनका लागि हो, तर यसका लागि तयारी सबै समय हुन्छ। जस्तै, अन्य दिन उपवासको दिन बाहेक, धेरै भारी खाना नखाउनुहोस्, तामसिक खानाबाट बच्न प्रयास गर्नुहोस्।

एकचोटि तपाईँले निर्णय गर्नुभयो भने, दिन वा तिथि। त्यो दिन, अन्न नखाउनुहोस् (अन्न) यदि सम्भव छ भने, पानी मात्र लिनुहोस्, यदि यो तपाईँका लागि सम्भव छैन भने, उच्च मात्रामा पानी भएका फलहरू लिनुहोस्। केही मानिसहरू भन्छन् कि हामी चिया, दूध लिन सक्छौँ तर म सल्लाह दिन्नँ, किनभने उपवासको मुख्य उद्देश्य शरीरमा ऊर्जा प्रवाह गर्न कुनै प्रतिबन्ध हुनु हुँदैन।

मलाई लाग्छ चिनी, दुधले केही प्रतिबन्धहरू सिर्जना गर्दछ, दुधभन्दा बढी, चियाले गर्छ किनभने चिनी र ती सबै चीजहरू।

दिनभर फलफुलबाहेक अरू खान नदिनुहोस्, धेरै खान नदिनुहोस्। रातमा, यदि तपाईं धेरै ह्यान्डल गर्न सक्नुहुन्न भने तपाईं रोटी लिन सक्नुहुन्छ तर यो 1-3 पटकका लागि मात्र गाह्रो हुन्छ, त्यसपछि तपाईं यसको अभ्यस्त हुनुहुनेछ।

भोलिपल्ट बिहान, खाना लिनुहोस्।

हरि ॐ तत्सत्।

Reason of fasting for them, what they had told me is, for betterment of family, unmarried women take fasting on Monday (सोमबार) of Saravan month to get a good husband like Lord Shiv. That time I thought, oh! Only females do fasting, men don’t to do fasting at all.

But now, I got some reasons for fasting. Fasting actually cleans up the body,it’s process to make body and soul cleaner. Here, some defender of Modern Science might think, how it is possible by fasting cleaning body?

Here’s the thing, in our body there are dead cells, while fasting body doesn’t have to think to give energy, so it’s start’s eating dead cell’s inside body, this prevents lots of diseases.

Think body as circuit board, the less resistance, the more energy flow in body.

Now, you might also think, that ok, it’s make body cleaner but what is the relation between well-being of family and getting a good husband related to fasting? That’s make no sense.

When you are clean, you get to heal.You attract good energies around you. People around you are those of energy you radiate. So, women get’s good husband. Also, when you’re healed, you can take care of your family when they are in problem.

Till now, we get to know, why should we do fasting?

Let’s look, when to do fasting.

I recommend people to do Ekadashi(11th Moon Cycle) Fasting. Because Ekadashi is Healing Tithi, you’re mind and soul(moon and sun) get aligned in that tithi, so your energy level raised up. This tithi works like boon. On Dhashami, the tithi before Ekadashi, healing deities and energies come to Earth; on Ekadashi, they heal you from within.

Some people also take fasting in Monday, Tuesday and Saturday. As far i saw, most of female here in nepal take Monday Fasting.

Monday Fasting helps to get mental clarity and emotional cleaning. It is day of Lord Shiv.

Tuesday Fasting helps to get courage, take actions. It day of Hanuman Ji.

People take fasting based on also, astrological combinations. When some problem in profession Saturday fasting.

Saturday fasting is bit more tough. Because the energy of day, it tests patience.

Don’t do Triyodashi fasting directly, first do Panchami, Astami, ekadashi for while then do it. Because it’s moksha tithi, it will give you moksha from things, you won’t able to handle energy at first.

How to do Fasting?

Fasting is not only about not eating food, it more than that. Also have fasting of brain, by not having guilts, regrets, mental blockage. Forgive people, it’s cleans you more from inside and leads to your spiritual growth.

Also, fasting is for one day, but the preparation for it is all the time. Like, other day beside the day of fasting, don’t eat much heavy food, try to avoid tamsic food.

Once you decide, the day or tithi. That day, don’t eat grains (अन्न). If possible, take only water, if it is not possible for you, take fruits which have high water quantity. Some people say we can take tea, milk but I don’t advise, because main purpose of fasting is to not have any restriction to flow energy into the body.

I think sugar, milk create some restriction, more than milk, tea does because sugar and all that stuff.

Full day don’t eat other than fruits, don’t take too much. At night, if you can’t handle much you can take roti but it’s hard for 1-3 times only, then after you’ll be used to it.

Next morning, take food.

Thank You. Hari om tat sat.