Dream Ain't Yours
The dream you plant on your head, to become that, this, or whatever — is it really your dream or did someone unknowingly program you?
Some might defend it but why does the majority of people share the same dream? Because it was enforced on you. The high-level hierarchy people want you to dream what they want you to dream, think what they want you to think, eat, wear, behave — everything you do is thought by someone else. Thinking on its own is such a novel process. Not everybody can do it, they just replicate other people’s thinking.
The other day, about any theorem, methodology anybody does in any particular field — when you ask why you are doing this, they have some unclear answer but ultimately it leads to “because someone else created this rule, that’s why.” It’s like this — someone else decided what rule you will follow.
The irony here, the term “Gyani” — the closest similar translation in English is “enlightened” — the meaning has been changed to this: the one who obeys whatever is said to him without much question, who doesn’t challenge anything, who doesn’t make others uncomfortable by his thinking, and more importantly, who is predictable — that is called “Gyani”. It’s stupidity. Society limits the kid’s potential just to make him predictable so there won’t be any harm from him. “Be more idealistic” is only said by those who aren’t themselves, who are morally corrupted. Only those will say this, by showing the shadow of how they are morally good, uncorrupted, and so on.
Here the matter of fact is no one is stupid — that kid who does those predictable things and tries to be more ideal in society for whatever reason. Like being the topper in his own society, it gives him/her recognition by parents, by relatives. The day a person is no longer recognized for his idealism, being nice, obeying elders — that moment he/she will seek another way to get acknowledgment, praise, in short, attention.
The so-called nice people and bad people want the same thing in a way — just attention. Because human nature is like this. When a kid does chaos and you just don’t care much, either he will increase it or completely stop. When he does good things and instead of chaos you give the kid attention, he won’t do chaos. The game is attention. That same goes with that ideal topper you know, who is predictable, who wants praise just for being predictable, obeying parents, elders. Obeying is only good for their parents and super bad for self.
Parents are doing a trade for their kid’s individual thinking capacity, just for their own ego and respect in society. Showing other kids who do a little chaos that “look how good our kids are and how bad others are,” doing that kind of thing.
Here the thing is, parents themselves have faced situations back in the day, how being nice got them praise and respect and all these things. They were sold this idea, and they think this will be good for their kid as well.
And all of society collectively gives a common dream — like these are the things you can dream, because by doing these you won’t be a threat to society.
That’s why society fears when someone with an individual mindset comes forward, who challenges society’s norms, whose thinking starts from the point where the so-called nice syndrome society thinking ends. They start to boycott that person, as they can’t think on that level. And somehow they sense, if he/she gets more space, other people will become like him/her. So predictability decreases, and society brands that person as a bad element of society. As he/she doesn’t fit in the existing norms.
That’s why the silent, studying, obedient ones are always praised and given as examples rather than those who do things on their own and create a little chaos and fear in society.
Most of us are dreaming someone else’s idea of an ideal dream. Now, if you ask what’s your dream, you have that dream among the 30-40 which is of everyone else.
